It’s been a while (and my laptop is being difficult…not a surprise there!), but…let’s chat. I have been thinking for months that I need to start writing more frequently again, and just haven’t. There’s a draw that I am feeling tonight, and even if I can’t be quite as transparent and honest as I want/should be..out of self-protection and also logic…I feel like this will help me. And if by a virtual extension it helps someone else in some way, well that’s a bonus.
Saying “well the people on the road are driving crazy, must be a full moon”, or “wow my emotions are all over the place/I feel weird, must be a Mercury Retrograde”, seems like a crazy-girl opt-out of processing life, or even just a crazy excuse for people being people…both are probably true. Buuuttt….is there some truth to it? I’m inclined at this point to think so, at least intrigued enough to run an experiment this year and compare fluctuations in emotions and situations against the astrology components that are happening year-round. People are all crazy, from time to time moreso than normal….and hope sucks and so do emotions, feelings, and people. There, I said it. And I’ll stand by it. Granted, I am open to all things having potential and opportunity…but at the end of the day, it’s really difficult to admit that hope doesn’t suck.
Processing emotions, building walls, ignoring feelings, addressing them head-on, and accepting them (even when they are MADDENINGLY frustrating and fated to go nowhere), I’ve been through it all. I have only convinced myself once before that someone I thought I had a crush on, I didn’t. And that was because my motivation behind not wanting to feel anything for them was because my best friend had (has) feelings for that person. And truthfully, my feelings were nothing for this person; so it was really easy to move on from that short crush. I don’t even think I’d truly call it a crush. Currently, the planets are doing weird things in the sky (I won’t bore you with the astrology beyond the retrograde though!) and it ironically aligns with a lot of issues that I’m seeing around me. I’ve been lucky enough to have built up a certain resiliency over the years to being over-emotional, and my best defense against losing my mind is to be there for other people. I guess it’s my way of having a ‘block’ or a wall of protection from my emotions…to throw myself into helping my friends and it ends up soothing my soul and helping me work through my own shit at the same time. Like, the back-burner is working while I’m focused elsewhere, and it’s productive and helpful. But every now and then, my empathetic nature gets the better of me, and after holding it together for so many others…I lose myself with a simple word and I’m gone for the night.
I’ve tried lying to myself before that my emotions were different than they were, it’s a less than enjoyable way to spend time. I wish I could have no feelings…but then I guess when I inevitably were to get them, it would be a shock to the system. I’m lucky to have the amazing friends in my life that I have. I’ve been mentally beating myself up for…let’s call them unplanned emotions for people in the past. I know you can’t help who you fall for, but it doesn’t really make it any less frustrating. But you know what, I have some pretty amazing people in my life so I shouldn’t be surprised really. I’d rather have the feelings and emotions than feel lost in a sea of emptiness. I don’t know what would be worse, to be head over heels for an unattainable person, or to not have any feelings for anyone for years and feeling completely empty and dead inside. I think I’d rather stay in the hell I know, because even though Hope Sucks…everything happens for a reason and there has to be a good one for all of the lesson’s I’ve learned!
I learned that last night was a crux in this retrograde and that this last week is going to be the toughest, but also the most cleansing. That gives me hope. I keep seeing signs and indications that I’m on the verge of everything turning around to be even better…that everything I’ve been manifesting and working towards is on it’s way and right around the corner. I have choices and options, and now is the time to really set myself up on a path to be happier than I’ve ever been and blah blah blah….I don’t mean to ridicule the universe if it’s genuine, and part of me wants to believe it…though it’s been about 3 months of this “you’re right on the edge”. Not sure what that timeframe is in the span of the universe, but perhaps it just means I should hold onto hope a little bit longer. (HA! I really have such a hard time with that!)
If you read through this, maybe you’ll take one sentence out of it and be able to relate. Maybe more…maybe none. Take what resonates and laugh at the rest, or roll your eyes, move on, and forget you even wasted 5 minutes of your life reading my wine-ramblings tonight. I write to cleanse my mind, and believe me, there was a lot more that didn’t make it to this blog that I wrote out. I’m ready to move forward and embrace the unknown with a calming breathe and open eyes…and a clear mind. Namaste!